Nollywood actor, Kalu Ikeagwu, has opened up about his personal experience being a victim of domestic violence while in a toxic relationship.

The actor recounted how he landed in a toxic relationship in an interview with Punch. He also revealed how he managed to survive the domestic violence and escape it.

The actor said, “Yes, I have experienced toxic relationships and ignored red flags, as most young people would,” admitting he was in fact a victim of a toxic relationship.

He added that, “I learnt very quickly to spot those red flags early on and to never assume people can or will change. A leopard does not change its spots.”

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On how he handled being subjected to domestic violence, the actor said, “The fear of God kept me in check. I remained calm, removed all emotion from the situation and maintained complete control until the escalation died down.

“Today, I am much the better for it. I thank God I trusted Him through the process. I am still benefitting from it till tomorrow.”

The actor also advised that people should find partners who fear God, adding that those seeking a God-fearing partner must share the same reverence for God.

He said, “There is no point being a hypocrite demanding from someone else what you refuse to touch.

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“Family background checks are also important. A person is the product of the family they come from. A violent or dysfunctional family can only produce a violent or dysfunctional individual.”

Speaking on toxic relationships on a broader note, the actor shared some of the reasons the issue has continued to thrive in Nigeria despite the existence of laws for domestic violence offenders.

He said, “I think raising awareness about domestic violence and toxic relationships is a good thing to wake people up to the reality that these two maligning issues are on the increase in society.

“However, I think a deluge of media coverage on domestic violence would have little or no impact if the cause of the prevalent violence is not addressed.

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“I feel that Nigerian laws are sufficient enough to protect women and children from domestic violence, but are the justice system and the authorities doing enough to protect them? I don’t think so.

“There is a lack of will for various reasons— political and otherwise— to adequately enforce the law to punish the perpetrators of violence and deter would-be offenders. This could be the major reason for the increase in domestic violence.”

Gospel minister, Moses Bliss has refuted rumors of a fallout between himself and ex-label signee, Ebuka Songz

The singer disclosed this during an interview at the inaugural live edition of the WithChude podcast, hosted by Chude Jideonwo.

When pressed about ongoing rumors of tension surrounding Ebuka’s departure from Spotlite Nation – Bliss’ record label – the ‘Too Faithful’ singer spoke warmly of his former protégé, describing him as a “great guy.”

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He said that Ebuka will go far in his ministry journey, adding that the world is yet to see the best of the ‘Daddy Wey Dey Pamper’ crooner.

We are humans, and you feel a certain way if people misconstrue your intentions. But you know, I’m very concerned about impressing God. My intentions are very pure, and everything is born, you know, out of love.

Ebuka is a great guy. He would do very well. I think that the world has not seen the best of him yet. The world has not seen the years. I feel like, yes, he still has greater years—with good mentors—and you know, he’s going to do even greater things.

Bliss said that it’s normal when an artiste moves on from a label, before clarifying that his label is more of a ministry than a traditional record outfit.

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He explained that as a result of his business model, he is always obligated to respond to controversies in a way that pleases Jesus.

So I would somehow want to respond the way Jesus would respond. And if anything is going to come in the way of ministry—of representing God—I will take the part of ministry. I’m a man of God, (so) I have to respond like a kingdom person. I’m not going to respond like the world. It doesn’t matter how I feel.

But you see, the consolation and the joy is that we have been able to contribute support where necessary. He’s definitely not where he used to be—not how he met us. He’s doing a lot of good for the kingdom. He’s impacting a lot of lives. Just seeing that alone, my joy is full. I don’t care what anybody thinks. I’m happy for him. I’m rejoicing for him. I’m rooting for him.

Sometimes they still call me for events: ‘We need an Ebuka.’ I say, ‘Yeah, sure—Ebuka is available.’ So it’s all love for me. As long as the kingdom of God is expanding and the gospel is being propagated, my joy is full.

Ebuka Songz left Bliss’ label in 2024 and the pair have since refuted any reports of bad blood.

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Nigerian industrialist and businesswoman Shade Okoya has opened up about marrying a much older man.

Shade married Billionaire industrialist Razak Okoya in 1999 when she was 21 while he was 59.

However, speaking during an interview with BBC Yoruba about her marriage, Shade insisted that she doesn’t think she’s missed out on anything because of marrying an older man.

When she was asked how her parents reacted to her decision to marry the older businessman, Shade responded that although her father was no longer alive, the two people in her life who had to make the decision —her mother and grandmother —were very much in support of the union.

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On how she met her husband, the mother of four explained that her husband didn’t waste any time when they met. She noted that he made his intentions known, and he did what was required before they got married.

Speaking about her experience in marriage, Shade affirmed that she is very happy in her marriage and doesn’t think she’s missing out on anything because she didn’t marry a young man.

She said, “My husband has been very generous with me. He defends me anywhere. God said this is where I will be. We met each other, and he likes me and didn’t waste time at all. I am happy in my marriage. He is far older than me but I don’t think I miss out on anything because I didn’t marry a young man.”

Furthermore, the businesswoman discussed her role at home, saying she takes care of her husband herself.

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She added that her husband had told her before they got married that she would work and not be a housewife.

The businesswoman, however, noted that despite having people working from home, she is still the one who personally attends to her husband.

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